Copyright (c) 2007 Cameron Teone Are you a divorced man who wishes he had more knowledge on how to start dating back in the single pool again? If you are reading through this article, perhaps you have already made this decision! Chances are if you were married for 15 or 20 years, you were institutionalized, sort of like the character of "Brooks" from the classic movie "The Shawshank Redemption." If you've seen the movie, you know exactly what I am talking about.
***STEP 1- Attitude readjustment*** It all starts with your ATTITUDE. So you have a choice: You can either sit there, bitch and complain about how the times have changed, about how it's been so long since you have done the single thing, and what a shame it is, OR you can make a decision NOW to attract a great woman (women) in your life.
Now, I am going to lay out a specific 10 Step program to enable you to effectively join the single scene again and start attracting more women. I can give you all sorts of dating advice but it won't do you any good until you decide that you want to get this part of your life handled.
Now, things suddenly do not make sense and this is a scary feeling. In fact 60% of marriages end up in a divorce in some parts of the country so you're in pretty good company. Start to realize that you have just opened the door to a world of new possibilities. In my experience, however, most men have no clue how to dress properly and when it comes to married men, forget about it.
The door of new possibilities has just been opened, and you ought to celebrate your new found freedom. Time for a makeover*** Look, I know it's possible that you were already a sharp dresser. In my experience, most married men I meet, have settled into a comfort zone where the sweatshirt over plain pants look has become their calling card.
If you are back on the single scene, it'd help if you started to once again take care of your appearance.
It's time to a grab a few new outfits, a pair of new shoes, and do some grooming.
In my line of work, I get all sorts of clients and inevitably some of the men are divorced guys looking to work the single scenes, except they have no idea where to begin. My job is to help guys from all walks of life meet women, build attraction, and have a successful dating life. Whether you plan to get married again or not is none of my business.
Then again, that may be because I have never been married either.The "Brooks" character would have chosen to stay in that prison under inhumane conditions rather than celebrate his freedom with uncertainty.When you were married, things made sense even if the circumstances were atrocious. You're not the first guy to get divorced, nor the last.I realize that this sounds basic but you'll be appalled to know how often I meet guys who do not take care of their basic grooming.Just make sure your hair (don't care if it's completely shaved or in a pompadour,) your beard/goatee, looks like it's been cared for. The problem is most people including many of your buddies won't tell you that you have bad breath. Our first step is to make certain that we are taking care of the basics.Change the way you dress, start grooming, and look presentable. ***STEP 3- Start Approaching*** Make an effort to approach more women and grow your social circle.