If the settings on e Harmony confuse you at all – contact customer care and they will happily help out.
If you are looking at a guy’s profile, and there is something that concerns you, instead of just closing the match, why not reach out and ask a question? There is no magic formula to this, so adjusting expectations and settling into the journey with a patient mindset will make the process a more positive one.
If a man makes no mention about pets, and you are in love with dogs, instead of assuming he doesn’t like them, ask him. If a match doesn't get back to you immediately, instead of assuming they aren't into you, keep an open mind and have faith that everything will happen as it should. Our visual counterparts want to check you out…that is a reality!
So give them a nice representation of who you are and what you like to do by posting a variety of photos.
Many men say they are thrilled when a woman actually reaches out first.
Why not shoot for more "middle of the road" on areas that aren't deal breakers?
What if an amazing guy lived just outside of your 30 mile perimeter?
Seriously, take a good look at your settings and consider being more flexible. Consider changing them from a 7 – the extreme – to a more moderate one.
Way too many people write exactly the same things on their profiles.
So much so that a discussion about it has been started on Advice. No more “I live life to the fullest,” “I like to paint the town red,” “I’m drama free,” “I like to take things slow,” or “I’m looking for my best friend.” Try and show a little originality.
Too many women sit back and wait for a guy to initiate communication.
If you see someone who looks interesting, send them a hello!