There are no commitment clauses, only an opportunity for great conversation and company.When you put your interest in another person and what he or she is all about first above your insecure thoughts about yourself, the nervousness melts away and you can truly “be yourself.” On the other hand, less than positive anticipation toward a date can indicate that your feelings for the person that you’re meeting are not that strong.You may even have low expectations about what the outcome will be.
Nerves aside, getting to know someone in person for the first time can come with mixed signals, a roller coaster of thoughts and a flurry of emotions. Look for these 5 telltale signs that may indicate that you and your date are well on your way to a mutually desired second date. Especially with online dating, finally meeting someone you’ve been messaging with and talking to on the phone for weeks or months is an exhilarating experience.
As thoughts turn to what could be, where to go and what to wear, you should feel a positive level of excitement and curiosity toward getting to know this new person.
A first date transforms thoughts, feelings and pieced-together information into reality, and the big question on both you and your date’s mind is, “I like this person, but will there be enough chemistry? While is perfectly normal to feel some level of nervousness before a first date—you want to keep it in check.
If you tend to be more of an anxious type, try reminding yourself that a first date is a casual getting-to-know-you session.
Let your conscience be your guide, and make sure that irrational fear is not making your decisions for you.
No one likes rejection, but if you don’t put one foot out there to test the terrain, you’ll never be able to cover any ground to get you closer to the relationship you’d like to share with someone. Relative Ease The first few minutes of a first date are usually marked by nervous smiles and ice-breaking conversation.During this small talk, you and your date are looking for commonalities that you share, such as a similar sense of humor and viewpoints on a variety of issues.You may both speak about shared references from e-mails or phone calls.As you both become more comfortable with one another you and your date should begin to feel more relaxed, and the conversation more open to share who you both are and to simply enjoy the experience you’re sharing, whether it’s a cup of coffee, a nice meal or a walk along the boardwalk or park.So once the initial nerves of the first date have passed, look for an easy conversational style between you.If your conversations seem anything but easy, and you begin to catalog major idiosyncrasies about your date that irritate you while he or she is speaking, take note.